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剛剛係Christianity.com 看到這個﹐覺得幾有意思。

The Facebook Fast


近日好少上facebook, 一來公司block 了﹐二來無時間﹐我想主要覺得無謂﹐寧願email, chat, 電話﹐一對一的對話。

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Christmas Celebration

差不多到聖誕﹐大家又會講下有咩攪﹐不外乎係去邊度開party, 玩一下。 日前收到Purpose Drive Life 的devotion, 講到聖誕慶祝﹐提醒我聖誕是紀念耶穌為了拯求我們而降生﹐但我們很多時慶祝卻與耶穌完全無關。所以今年想在12/25 去聖誕崇拜﹐忌廉頭還提議與菜媽同去。上網看看那裡有聖誕崇拜﹐卻發現原來附近的教會都只有平安夜崇拜﹐沒有聖誕節崇拜的。大概這是美國的問題吧。

2008/12/08


Christmas: Celebration!
by Rick Warren

“I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.” Luke 2:10 (NIV)

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This may come as a shock to you, but God really likes parties. God is into parties; God likes to party; God is constantly throwing parties. In fact, the Bible says that God’s angels throw a party every time a single person trusts Jesus as the Lord and Savior of his or her life. They party for joy whenever someone turns away from self-centeredness and turns toward Jesus.

Christmas is a party; it’s a birthday party for Jesus. It’s why we say “Merry Christmas.” Yet, we often leave the guest of honor out of our Christmas parties! Thinking about this irony, I started asking people, “What are you celebrating this Christmas?” This is what a few of them told me:

· “What am I celebrating? Not a lot.”

· “The blessings that we’ve had in our family this year.”

· “Just the Christmas spirit.”

· “Being home and not being on the road for the holidays.”

· “This Christmas? I’m celebrating the birth of Christ.”

· “Nothing. I just want to get through it.”

This last comment is true for a lot of people. Christmas may be a season of celebration, but they feel they have nothing to celebrate. Perhaps that’s true of you, too. You’re thinking, “I just want to get through Christmas. I just want to survive it. I’ve got nothing to celebrate.”

But God, through his angel, tells us that embedded in Christmas is good news of such great joy that, if we believe it, we won’t be able to contain the celebration within us.

But we get so frustrated in our circumstances or so busy simply getting ready for the celebration that we lose sight of the joy. The good news turns into the fact that your in-laws aren’t coming this year or you managed to keep within the Christmas budget.

God’s good news is so much more than that! The joy of Christmas is based on three things: (1) God loves us; (2) God is with us; (3) God is for us. Can you hear the celebration in that?!
© 2008 Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved.

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Whom Not to Marry

上一個post 就係回應以下的﹐係一個天主教神父對12年班女生既忠告...

“Never marry a man who has no friends,” he starts. “This usually means that he will be incapable of the intimacy that marriage demands. I am always amazed at the number of men I have counseled who have no friends. Since, as the Hebrew Scriptures say, ‘Iron shapes iron and friend shapes friend,’ what are his friends like? What do your friends and family members think of him? Sometimes, your friends can’t render an impartial judgment because they are envious that you are beating them in the race to the altar. Envy beclouds judgment.

“Does he use money responsibly? Is he stingy? Most marriages that founder do so because of money — she’s thrifty, he’s on his 10th credit card.“Steer clear of someone whose life you can run, who never makes demands counter to yours. It’s good to have a doormat in the home, but not if it’s your husband.

“Is he overly attached to his mother and her mythical apron strings? When he wants to make a decision, say, about where you should go on your honeymoon, he doesn’t consult you, he consults his mother. (I’ve known cases where the mother accompanies the couple on their honeymoon!)

“Does he have a sense of humor? That covers a multitude of sins. My mother was once asked how she managed to live harmoniously with three men — my father, brother and me. Her answer, delivered with awesome arrogance, was: ‘You simply operate on the assumption that no man matures after the age of 11.’ My father fell about laughing.

“A therapist friend insists that ‘more marriages are killed by silence than by violence.’ The strong, silent type can be charming but ultimately destructive. That world-class misogynist, Paul of Tarsus, got it right when he said, ‘In all your dealings with one another, speak the truth to one another in love that you may grow up.’

“Don’t marry a problem character thinking you will change him. He’s a heavy drinker, or some other kind of addict, but if he marries a good woman, he’ll settle down. People are the same after marriage as before, only more so.

“Take a good, unsentimental look at his family — you’ll learn a lot about him and his attitude towards women. Kay made a monstrous mistake marrying Michael Corleone! Is there a history of divorce in the family? An atmosphere of racism, sexism or prejudice in his home? Are his goals and deepest beliefs worthy and similar to yours? I remember counseling a pious Catholic woman that it might not be prudent to marry a pious Muslim, whose attitude about women was very different. Love trumped prudence; the annulment process was instigated by her six months later.

“Imagine a religious fundamentalist married to an agnostic. One would have to pray that the fundamentalist doesn’t open the Bible and hit the page in which Abraham is willing to obey God and slit his son’s throat.

“Finally: Does he possess those character traits that add up to a good human being — the willingness to forgive, praise, be courteous? Or is he inclined to be a fibber, to fits of rage, to be a control freak, to be envious of you, to be secretive?

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To Trust and Cherish: Rules to Love By

今日係NYT 看到這個﹐係一個離過兩次婚既女讀者去信講既﹐好似都講得幾岩...

Never marry a man who yells at you in front of his friends.

Never marry a man who is more affectionate in public than in private.

Never marry a man who notices all of your faults but never notices his own.

Never marry a man whose first wife had to sue him for child support.

Never marry a man who corrects you in public.

Never marry a man who sends birthday cards to his ex-girlfriends.

Never marry a man who doesn’t treat his dog nicely.

Never marry a man who is rude to waiters.

Never marry a man who doesn’t love music.

Never marry a man whose plants are all dead.

Never marry a man your mother doesn’t like.

Never marry a man your children don’t like.

Never marry a man who hates his job.

Never marry a man who doesn’t give you lovely and romantic gifts for your birthday and Valentine’s Day.

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格林童話《灰姑娘》的深層意義

偶然看到這個﹐老師甘識教既﹐幾有意思...

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上課鈴響了，孩子們跑進教室，這節課老師要講的是灰姑娘的故事。

老師先請一個孩子上臺給同學講一講這個故事。

孩子很快講完了，老師向他表示了感謝，然後開始向全班提問。

老師﹕　你們喜歡故事裡面的哪一個？不喜歡哪一個？為甚麼？

學生﹕　喜歡Cinderella，還有王子，不喜歡她的後母和她帶來的兩個姐姐。Cinderella善良、可愛、漂亮。後母和姐姐對她卻很壞。

老師﹕　如果在午夜十二點的時候，Cinderella沒有來得及跳上她的南瓜馬車，你們想一想，可能會出現甚麼情況？.

學生﹕　Cinderella會變成原來髒髒的樣子，穿著破舊的衣服。哎呀，那就慘啦。

老師﹕　所以，你們一定要做一個守時的人，不然就可能給自己帶來麻煩。另外，你們看，你們每個人平時都打扮得漂漂亮亮的，千萬不要突然邋邋遢遢地出現在別人 面前，不然你們的朋友要嚇著了。女孩子，你們更要注意，將來你們長大和男孩子約會，要是你不注意，被你的男朋友看到你很難看樣子，他們可能就嚇昏了(老師 做昏倒狀，全班大笑）。

好，下一個問題。

如果你是Cinderella的後母，你會不會阻止Cinderella去參加王子的舞會？你們一定要誠實呀！

過了一會兒，有孩子舉手回答。

學生﹕　會，如果我是Cinderella的後母，我也會阻止她去參加王子的舞會。

老師﹕　為甚麼？學生﹕　因為……因為我愛自己的女兒，我希望自己的女兒當上王后。

老師﹕　是的，所以，我們看到的後母好像都是不好的人，她們只是對別人不夠好，可是她們對自己的孩子卻很好，你們明白了嗎？她們不是壞人，只是她們還不能夠像愛自己的孩子一樣去愛其他的孩子。

孩子們，下一個問題。

Cinderella的後母不讓她去參加王子的舞會，甚至把門鎖起來，她為甚麼能夠去，而且成為舞會上最美麗的姑娘呢？

學生﹕　因為有仙女幫助她，給她漂亮的衣服，還把南瓜變成馬車，把狗和老鼠變成僕人。

老師﹕　對，你們說得很好！想一想，如果Cinderella沒有得到仙女的幫助，她是不可能去參加舞會的，是不是？

學生﹕　是的！

老師﹕　如果狗、老鼠都不願意幫助她，她可能在最後的時刻成功地跑回家嗎？學生﹕　不會，那樣她就可以成功地嚇到王子了。(全班再次大笑。)

老師﹕　雖然Cinderella有仙女幫助她，但是，光有仙女的幫助還不夠。所以，孩子們，無論走到哪裡，我們都是需要朋友的。我們的朋友不一定是仙女，但是，我們需要他們，我也希望你們有很多很多的朋友。

下面，請你們想一想，如果Cinderella因為後母不願意她參加舞會就放棄了機會，她可能成為王子的新娘嗎？

學生﹕　不會！那樣的話，她就不會到舞會去，不會跟王子遇上、認識和愛上她了。

老師﹕　對極了！如果Cinderella不想參加舞會，就是她的後母沒有阻止，甚至支持她去，也是沒有用的，是誰決定她要去參加王子的舞會？
學生﹕　她自己。

老師﹕　所以，孩子們，就是Cinde rella沒有媽媽愛她，她的後母不愛她，這也不能夠讓她不愛自己。就是因為她愛自己，她才可能去尋找自己希望得到的東西。如果你們當中有人覺得沒有人愛，或者像Cinderella一樣有一個不愛她的後母，你們要怎麼樣？

學生﹕　要愛自己！

老師﹕　對，沒有一個人可以阻止你愛自己，如果你覺得別人不夠愛你，你要加倍地愛自己。如果別人沒有給你機會，你應該加倍地給自己機會。如果你們真的愛自 己，就會為自己找到自己需要的東西沒有人能夠阻止Cinderella參加王子的舞會，沒有人可以阻止Cinderella當上王后，除了她自己。對不 對？
學生﹕　是的！

老師﹕　最後一個問題，這個故事有甚麼不合理的地方？

過了好一會……

學生﹕　午夜十二點以後所有的東西都要變回原樣，可是，Cinderella的水晶鞋沒有變回去。

老師﹕　天哪，你們太棒了！你們看，就是偉大的作家也有出錯的時候，所以，出錯不是甚麼可怕的事情。我擔保，如果你們當中誰將來要當作家，一定比這個作家更棒！你們相信嗎？

孩子們歡呼雀躍。

此為美國一所普通小學的一堂閱讀課。
真棒的老師。
我們是到了那個年紀才想到這些層面？
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