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Love & Respect: Openness....she wants you to open up to her

本來想晏一點先寫﹐但見西門兄甘如此心急﹐未食飯都寫左先啦。

首先﹐quote 下點解女性希望另一半open up...
"Remember, as a woman, she is expressive-responsive. She wants to talk about things. She wants to have her problems out in the open for discussion in order to solve them." ...俾作者一講我發現自己真係甘﹐好多時都唔知自己真正諗緊咩﹐要thinking out loud 先知﹐先解決到問題。

"At the level of intimacy, the wife is like the first circuit. If a serious marital conflict exists, this affects her whole being. All of her "lights" go out, and she shuts down totally. The is because she is an integrated personality. Her mind, body, and soul are connected and her entire system reacts to feelings of hurt." ...係啦﹐一有唔開心﹐真係咩都做唔到﹐返工都係對住個mon 發呆﹐或者喊。

"Most wifes...prefer to talk about marital problems on a daily basis to keep the relationship 'up-to-date.' ...As a husband you must understand that those feelings of being interrogated and thinking your wife is snooping or asking a lot of unnecessary questions are going to come over you. It will happen, and you must stop yourself before you get upset. Think about why your wife is doing this. She wants to keep things up-to-date. She's moving toward you because she loves you - you matter to her!" - 嘩﹐全中﹐真係好多野問架﹐不過係女人天性﹐同埋想大家好﹐請你多多包涵。

"One of the simplest yet most effective steps you can take is simply to share your day with her. If you don't want to talk at that moment, say something like, "Something happened at work today, and maybe we can talk about it later, but right now I would rather now. There is nothing wrong with us." That last phrase is what she will be looking for. She needs reassurance that your mood has nothing to do with her." 岩呀﹐西門兄你都試下啦。

Your Wife Feels You Are Open to Her When...
...you share your feelings, telling bout your day and difficulties.
...you say," Let's talk,' ask her what she's feeling, and ask for her opinions.
...your face shows you want to talk - relaxed body language, good eye contact.
...you take her for a walk to talk and reminisce about how you met or perhaps you talk about the kids and problem she may be having with them.
...you pray with her.
...you give her your full attention...no grunting responses while trying to watch TV, read the newspaper, or write emails.
...you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes, or ideas for your future.

posted by 板板子 @ 5:51 PM